Patrick Dispoto, 59, and his girlfriend, Ruth Fussell, were starting to leave the beach on Sunday in Seaside Park, Ocean County when suddenly Dispoto decided to go back.
Fussell said Dispoto wanted to warn a group of kids, who were in the water, about the dangers of an impending lightning storm.
That was the last time Fussell saw him alive, she said.
"He said, 'I'll be right back.' I said, 'You have you have no business going back.' And he says, 'I'm just going to warn these kids because the sky is going to open. I'm just going to warn these kids, one minute.' I said, 'No,'" Fussell recalled of their last conversation.
Dispoto could not rest thinking about the kids he saw on the beach not leaving fast enough to beat the threat of the storm, Fussell said.
First, Fussell said he made sure she was safe in his truck. Then he turned down J Street back to the beach.
Fussell says she called him three times and he didn't respond. She waited 15 minutes for Dispoto to return.
After getting worried, she says she went back to find him face down in the sand and a stranger standing over him.
"He was saying 'Help! Help! 911.' I administered mouth to mouth, and the guy's wife was doing chest compressions," Fussell said.
EMS arrived and took Dispoto to the hospital where he was pronounced dead. Seaside Park police confirmed Wednesday that his death was caused by a lightning strike.
"The doctor said 45 minutes after the brain has no oxygen, you have to unplug him. I said, 'No you can't,'" Fussell said.
In April, Seaside Park approved $50,000 to spend on three lightning warning systems to cover its mile-and-a-half-long beach.
It would warn residents of lightning danger long before the threat reaches the shoreline.
"You can set the radius as to how far away you want it to track it; five miles, 10 miles, 15 miles, and you can set the radius and it will trigger those sirens to go off," said Seaside Park Lifeguard Captain Jim Rankin.
A few Jersey Shore beaches already have warning systems. One sits atop the lifeguard station at Berkeley Township Beach, where in 2021, 19-year-old lifeguard Keith Pinto died when he was struck by lightning as he was trying to get visitors off the beach.
A section of the beach is now named in his honor.
Fussell says Dispoto never passed up an opportunity to make someone's life easier, and that's what she wants everyone to know.
"So, his last act of heroism was his ultimate, and that's my Patrick Dispoto," Fussell said.