The first tip from experts: set boundaries
Paul Kessleman says as a guest, it's ok to politely excuse yourself. If the conversation takes a turn, just say you feel uncomfortable talking about a particular topic.
Mental health experts also recommend sticking to neutral topics and surrendering the idea that you're going to convince a family member to change their mind.
Therapists say that bonding over family traditions is one way to find common ground.
Bottom line: there is value in coming together over the holiday.