Why?
Because my son has become quite adept at not only speaking out, but talking back and just plain arguing when he thinks a rule or a parental decision is unfair.
So what's the best way to nip arguing and back talking in the bud without sacrificing your child's strong-mindedness and self-worth? Some experts I've talked to and have read say it doesn't have to be difficult, but it requires three factors:
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1. A parental willingness to hear out the child completely.
2. A willingness to reconsider a rule that may not have been well thought out.
3. A consistency to stick to your guns when a well-deserved no is issued, no matter how much the child complains or whines.
But every good debate needs rules, and most kids will be happy to sit down and plot them out. Of course, this is best done when you're not already in the midst of an argument.
Yet I've found that if I tell my son, I will let him finish his sentence, if I can finish mine, then the back-talk is minimized.
There is also no yelling or screaming. And above all, the parent decides when the discussion is over.
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